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Personal Freedom
In the United States we constantly brag about how free we are… “The Land of the Free” and all that. But therapists know that many people, maybe even most people, are enslaved. Some of us are slaves to other people, especially spouses and employers. Others...
Problem Solving #1: Roadblocks
PROBLEM SOLVING #1 All personal and interpersonal problems CAN be solved. When they aren’t solved, it’s often due to these roadblocks. MAYBE YOU DON’T WANT TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM One common roadblock happens when people think they want to solve a...
Problem Solving #2: Defining the Problem
All personal and interpersonal problems can be solved. When we don’t solve a problem, it’s often because we haven’t identified it clearly. ARGUMENTS ABOUT “EVERYTHING” Some people disagree for hours (or days!) without even knowing what...
Problem Solving #3: The Six Aspects Of A Problem (Part 1)
PROBLEM SOLVING SERIES: #3 All personal and interpersonal problems can be solved. We’ve looked at the roadblocks (#1) and how to identify a problem (#2). Now, in #3 and #4, we’ll learn about the six aspects of all problems. This topic focuses on the...
Problem Solving #4: The Six Aspects Of Any Problem (Part 2)
PROBLEM SOLVING SERIES – #4 All personal and interpersonal problems CAN be solved. We’ve looked at the roadblocks (#1) and how to identify a problem (#2). Now, in #3 and #4, we’ll learn about the six aspects of all problems. This topic focuses on my...
Stop Making Comparisons!
A HOT TIP Want a hot tip about how to quickly and permanently improve how you feel? STOP MAKING COMPARISONS! All kinds of comparisons! TWO KINDS OF COMPARISONS Remember the last time you heard someone make a comparison about you. They might have said: “You look...
Success
A STORY OF FAILURE A 28 year old man came to therapy because his wife insisted, under threat of divorce. He talked only of his business, saying nothing at all about his wife, his children, or his friends. He had built a successful business which he recently sold at a...
Who Can You Trust?
ABOUT “CONS” In the general population about one out of ten people are completely untrustable. They are called “cons” and they live by these “rules”: 1) Only fools tell the truth. 2) If you can get by with it, it’s OK. 3) Joy...
Why Are You Treated The Way You Are?
THE 95% RULE Ninety-five percent of the time we get treated the way we INVITE people to treat us. ABOUT “INVITATIONS” Everything we do, especially our nonverbal behavior, is an invitation to those around us. A smile is an invitation. So is a frown. So is a...
Why Do We Work So Hard?
“I couldn’t find a moment’s rest.” “The boss is a slave driver!” “The kids just kept demanding more and more of me.” We hear complaints like these every day – from friends, family members, everyone. When we agree...
