Letters I've Received
I want to compliment you on the wonderful job I feel you did putting
this whole thing together. I just read the article on trust. Where did
you get the idea of "The Little Professor"? It is a valuable
and a pretty fun skill to have. I have been reading some of the other
stuff you have and I think it is great fun. I feel very relaxed when
I read the stuff you have provided. I love learning abut who I am because,
to be honest, I'm only 17, and I guess you could say I don't know myself
very well yet. (But I'm getting there!) I hope to use this information
in the experiences that I have in the near and later future.
[Note #1: "The Little Professor" and most of the other information
at my site is from "Transactional Analysis," a system of psychotherapy....]
[Note #2: Don't you wish YOU were this wise when you were 17...? I sure
Interested In Dreams.....
I am very interested in understanding the meanings of my dreams and
dreams period. I think your web site is really great and it has opened
new doors and shown me a few more tricks to understanding why I dream
such crazy... realistic dreams. Don't give up what you do, you seem
to be very talented. God Bless!!!
[Note: I just figure ALL dreams are crazy and yet 'realistic'...!]
Helped Immediately with Girlfriend and Parents.....
I happened across your website today because I was feeling low about
myself and my relationship with my girlfriend. I found your website and
after spending a few minutes reading the information you posted. I
started writing a 4 page letter to my girlfriend and a 1 page letter to
my parents. It made an incredible change in my mood and I actually
did a 180 degree turnabout from this morning and now I am excited about
reading my letters to my parents and my girlfriend. Your information really
helped and I thank you for that.
[Note: I love letters that talk about immediately applying what is learned...]
Caves and Torches.....
I have thoroughly enjoyed your articles and especially like the way
you give good constructive practical advice and things to do about
Unfortunately, I suffered years of depression and read loads of books
and articles related to the subject but have hardly ever found some good
practical advice on getting out of the rut which is why I found your articles
so useful and have been telling my friends too!
I have seen one good therapist and a couple of useless ones so I feel
I now know the difference and have found the best therapist is within,
so your self-therapy is marvelous. I feel that some of the useless
therapists need patients more than the patients need them. To be stuck
in a room paying exorbitant fees to get a vacant look seems more crazy
than going deep inside the caves and coming out the other side into the
sunshine yourself. Thanks for your torches!
[Note: I agree completely with her, but there are times when the caves
just seem too scary to be explored alone too...]
Dreams and Lies and Opposites.....
I just wanted to let you know that some of the information that I read
on your web page has really helped me out. Specifically, about how a person's
subconscious can create a scenario during their dreams that tries to make
them believe the opposite of the truth.
One night a young woman offered to help me place some stuff in my car,
& even though I didn't need the help I didn't want to pass up the
chance to have a nice encounter with her. The woman was very nice to me
and the event went extremely well. I actually felt that she might be interested
Anyway, I felt very good after the encounter & I began to actually
believe that I was attractive to women. After I went to bed I had a dream
that I was at a party and was dancing with the woman & the woman all
of a sudden stuck her nose up at me and walked away before the dance was
over with. After I woke up, my subconscious tried again to make me believe
that I wasn't worth anything & then I remembered what your web page
said about the lies & the dreaded emotions & feelings slowly subsided.
I think I'm going to talk with my therapist & try to go back
into my childhood & discover what event started all this mess.
[Note: A perfect example of how dreams work!...]
Help With A Mass of Problems
I found your web site when I was looking for some way of dealing with
a mass of problems. Your information is practical, very helpful, and
makes life manageable. There is no other Web site which communicates
as well as yours does. You deserve an award for putting this information
on the Web. I am truly grateful to you. I am certain that there are many
others who want to send a message to you but are too confused to do so.
[Note: Well, maybe... I'm just grateful for the ones I get!...]
Low Self-Esteem and Handling Criticism
First of all I would like to thank you for your informative and enlightening
website. I am a 30-something year old female that grew up in a very
abusive environment and as a result had a low self-esteem. I would let
people walk all over me. Last year I had finally had enough and realized
that the other people were not my problem, I was. Taking the responsibility
for myself was the greatest thing I have ever done. I knew my only way
out was to change. You cannot change others, only yourself. Your article
on criticism really hit home because that has always been such a problem
for me until now.
I was close friends with a neighbor for years and I let her verbally
abuse me repeatedly. Every nasty comment she made I would internalize
and mope about for days. About five months ago, I was in a group situation
with this friend and she cut me down several times and said I was the
wimp of the neighborhood. I didn't stick up for myself at the time but
it ate me alive. The next day I told my husband and my two children that
I was no longer going to let anyone treat me that way ever again and that
I was going over to my friend's house to confront her. As you can imagine
they were in shock by my newfound attitude and stepped back to let me
out the door with looks of admiration on their faces.
I confronted my friend and simply told her that I no longer allow anyone
to treat me in that manner and if she wanted to remain friends then she
would have to start treating me with the same amount of respect that I
treat her with. After a few tears on her part she apologized and said
she wanted to remain friends and my terms were acceptable. Our friendship
is much closer now and I have found a new sense of freedom that is exhilarating!
My friends and family are stunned by my new outlook on life and they think
twice before making any nasty comments to me!
I used to think that to stick up for myself I would be acting like
a bit--. But I have discovered that others actually have more respect
for me and I for myself when I "take care of myself." I hope
your article will help someone else out there to realize that criticism
is damaging only if they let it be and that a few small steps can gain
them so much happiness and freedom.
[Note: This is a brag about something this woman accomplished even before
she visited the site... She sent is as "encouragement" for other
Panic / Anxiety Groups
I am so excited that I found your Web Site (by searching for "self
talk" in AltaVista). I run 2 panic/anxiety support groups and am
ALWAYS looking for info on the Web. When I saw your site today, I thought,
"Eureka!" You have so much of interest to people with anxiety/panic
disorder! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
[... A few hours later...] Tony, I feel like Christmas came early for
me this year -- when I found your Web site today! I wrote to you just
a bit earlier today, and in the meanwhile, I've been going through your
whole site. Eureka! My two panic/anxiety support groups can be thankful
to YOU! You touch on so many issues that "we" have!
Of the articles you have planned for the future, I sincerely vote for:
[.. lists 13 topics..]. They ALL sound Fantastic to me!!! I'd also love
to hear more on Assertiveness, Self-Confidence/Esteem, Child Abuse - Emotional,
Happy Holidays to you, Tony! You sure have given ME a wonderful Holiday
[Note: This woman now has all of my topics and is circulating them in
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