Q&A
CONTINUES SEX AFTER WIFE SAYS STOP
Q: My wife has become a frigid prune in bed. When talking doesn’t help and sex life has just about died is divorcing a good thing to do? Before we married she sucked my dick & & fucked a lot now I have to almost beg. The other night she started and...
CUTS HERSELF AND WANTS A DIAGNOSIS
Q:I do extreme things to get attention. I always want to hurt myself so people will notice me. And I actually do bruise and cut myself so people will notice. I have also found myself lying and exaggerating to get attention. This is an addiction. I’ve been...
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Q: The common wisdom for how to deal with poisonous people is “Don’t.” I’m inclined to agree, but this answer is simply far too pat to be terribly applicable to reality. There are a number of times where interacting with someone who is a...
DEPENDENT FAMILY
Q: My 45 year old brother still lives with our parents and shows no interest of ever leaving. He has no social life & never dates. He has fear of change, failure, answering the phone or door & probably OCD, but refuses to seek help. My parents enable him, even...
Depressed
Q: Hey, I am really depressed. I hate myself. I hate my personality and I want to change. Can you help me? I keep thinking of suicide, but maybe this will work. A: What will work is going to see a psychiatrist who can do two things for you: 1) Discuss medication...
DEPRESSED 50 YEARS
Q: I am a 50 year old woman who has been depressed most of my 50 years. The problem is that I know why I’m depressed but I can’t stop it. I’ve seen doctors but they can’t help. You see, I know what’s wrong and who caused it, or what...
DEPRESSED A LONG TIME
Q: I am a 60 year old with 16 years as a recovering alcoholic. Today although my health and surroundings are great, II do not have any emotional feelings except sadness, disappointment, uncertainty, and loneliness. I don’t get any enjoyment out of anything that...
DEPRESSED AND MISTRUSTFUL
Q: I’ve been bewildered all my life as to why I find myself acting as if I am two people in the same body. When I believe that the people around me are not understanding enough or more importantly not worth trusting for support, I shut myself away in my own...
DEPRESSED AND OWNED?
Q:I am paralyzed by my inability to follow my dreams. I suffer from great emotional resistance & inertia. I am 27 and blessed with many qualities yet I choose to seek comfort behind my family’s wealth. How can I break through the walls that trap me? A:This...
DEPRESSION: CHEMICAL IMBALANCE OR ENVIRONMENTAL?
Q: I have a friend who takes medication for Depression. Can depression really be attributed to chemical imbalance or life situations? I read your article about anger. Could repressed emotions trigger the imbalance? Thanks for any info. A: First of all you should...
DEVASTATED BY HER LACK OF INTEREST
Q: I am devastated with my girlfriend breaking up with me. We were so happy and now she doesn’t want to try anymore. Ever since she moved out of her house and in with some girlfriends she’s changed. I feel as if she is only trying because she feels pity...
DIFFERENT CULTURES AND IN LOVE
Q: I recently met a wonderful person who seems to match my personality quite closely. We love spending time together, and can’t seem to get enough of each other. However, she is of a different cultural background than I am. Our families and friends are...
DO WE NEED CLOSENESS?
Q: You often mention how getting love and attention is so important for everyone… yet some people are perfectly comfortable being self reliant and don’t want close relationships… If dismissiveness works fine for some, should (and could) anxious,...
DOESN’T REMEMBER WHO ABUSED HER
Q:I have so many symptoms of sexual abuse in my past, but I can’t remember anything for certain, like who did it. It is driving me crazy and the older I get the more it bothers me, sexually with my husband. I am 26. Will I ever remember who did these things? Example...
DOESN’T TRUST ANYONE
Q: “What do you do when you realize that you are 32 and you don’t know one person in your life that you trust? This was a painful realization.” A: What this tells me is that you probably had a childhood in which nobody around you was trustable. Kids...
DOESN’T TRUST HIMSELF?
One could call me a ‘player’. I have many casual relationships and many guys are envious of my conquests, so I almost feel I need to keep it up with it and pretend. I crave a relationship with a nice, innocent girl, but I don’t feel that I can reciprocate the same or...
DOING WELL BUT FEELS GUILTY
Q: I am a girl 22 years old and live in Eastern Europe. I am very poor and last year I did not have money to eat and I borrowed from a friend. He forced me into prostitution to give him the money back. Now I have found a job so that I do not have to do this anymore....
DREAMS HE WILL DIE
Q: I am 24 years old. I had a dream last night that I was dead at the age of 25. I was trying to figure out how I died (in my dream) by interrogating people, but I couldn’t figure it out. I am very worried. A: It must have been a particularly realistic dream! If...
DRUNK AND MEAN HUSBAND
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. Although he openly admits he is an alcoholic, he says that he likes to drink and he doesn’t want to stop. The problem is when he is drunk which is everyday, he becomes mean and verbally abusive. Should I stay and try to help him or...
EVERYTHING BUT CONTENTMENT
Q: I believe I have most everything I want and live a good life, but am unable to ever feel contentment (stop and smell the roses). I believe I amplify stressful situations to have a self-purpose. I am afraid that I am not enjoying the things under my nose and one day...