Q: I was molested by my brother for lots of years – since I can remember until about 13). I lost my virginity by masturbation. I feel guilty all the time. How does abuse like this effect a woman? Please help.
A: First of all, please go to the topics listed at my site under the heading of “Child Abuse.” They are written for everyone who has experienced such horrors, women primarily but men also.
Secondly, don’t expect to handle this all on your own. See a good therapist about it. It is very, very important that you get help from a good therapist.
Once you find a good therapist, there’s a book I’d suggest that you read and discuss with your therapist. It’s title is “The Courage To Heal” and you can purchase it online.