Relationship Analysis

GENERAL INFORMATION

You can easily use this questionnaire to analyze any primary, sexual relationship. If you want to use it to analyze a non-sexual relationship (relative, friend, boss, etc.) click here for more information: Non-Sexual Relationships

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN

1. WHO GETS THE MOST OF WHAT THEY WANT from the relationship.
2. The GREATEST STRENGTH of the relationship, and HOW TO CAPITALIZE ON IT.
3. The GREATEST WEAKNESS of the relationship, and HOW TO MINIMIZE IT.
4. The MOMENT OF GREATEST STRESS, and WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
5. The BEST METHOD FOR SOLVING PROBLEMS.

THIS ISN’T COSMOPOLITAN MAGAZINE!

Answering the 10 questions on the next page will be easy, but take your time in answering them to avoid misleading results. Answer each question thoughtfully.

This analysis will help you to examine the ten most important traits in a primarily good relationship to determine the degree to which each trait is present or absent. It is designed for relationships in which there is no physical abuse, no sexual abuse, and very little if any emotional abuse. If you know you are in an abusive relationship, some of the advice you will read here will not apply to you! (Bottom line: Abuse is wrong and needs to be stopped – or escaped – regardless of all other factors.)

THE QUESTIONS

Ten questions are the heart of this questionnaire.

They ask about times when either you or your partner wants something. (One question asks about when you want something, another question asks about when the other person wants the same thing, etc.) Pay very close attention to who is doing the “wanting” in each question. (You have to do a little “guessing” when answering about the other person, of course – but we all have to do a lot of that in real life too!)

ANSWER EACH QUESTION WITH A NUMBER FROM 0 TO 100.

USE A DIFFERENT NUMBER FOR EACH ANSWER. (No duplicate answers.)

PICK A SPECIFIC TIME PERIOD FOR ALL THE QUESTIONS. – You can choose any time period you like: “since we met,” “the last month,” “the last ten years,” even “the first three years we were together.”  But you must be thinking about the SAME time period on every question.

OK, You Are Ready!