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About Change

About Getting Close

About Joy

About Love

About Shame

An Inspiration from War

Analyzing Your Dreams

Angels, Infants, and Hope

Are You Considering Therapy?

Are You Expecting Too Much?

Basics #1: Your Needs and Wants

Basics #2: Your Natural Feelings

Basics #3: Unnatural Feelings



Can You Make Someone Change?

Clear Communication: #1

Clear Communication: #2

Clients and Success in Therapy

Cooperation #1: Why We Cooperate

Cooperation #2: How To Cooperate

Couples: Passive & Controlling Partners

Depression In The Culture

Depression: The Problem

Depression: What To Do About It


Do You Think You Can’t?


False Memories and Responsibility

Fantasy And Reality: #1

Fantasy And Reality: #2

Feel Safe By ‘Safing’ Yourself

Feeling Like You Belong

Feeling Safe

Finding Purpose

Getting Enough Attention

Growing Up Emotionally

Getting Practical #1: The Basics

Getting Practical #2: Relationships, Couples, Families, and Careers

Guidelines For Emotional Health

Handling Criticism


Healing From Sexual Abuse: A Strategy

How Does Abuse Happen?

How Happy Couples Stay That Way

How Much Change Is Possible?

How To Have A Lousy Sex Life

How To Play

How To Talk About Feelings

How Are You Spending Your Life?

Life’s Craziest Beliefs

Knowing #1: How Do You Know?

Knowing #2: How Smart Are You?

Knowing:#3 Your Core Beliefs

Knowing #4: Educated Guesses

Living With Alcoholics


Love Relationships

Making Decisions

Mistakes Every Good Parent Makes


My Wishes For Real People

Natural Anger

Natural Sadness

Natural Scare

Peace On Earth


Personal Freedom

Powerful Ideas: #1

Problem Solving #1: Roadblocks

Problem Solving #2: Defining The Problem

Problem Solving #3: The Six Aspects of The Problem (#1)

Problem Solving #4: The Six Aspects of The Problem (#2)

Problems With Anger

Problems With Sadness

Problems With Scare

Quitting Addictions


Self Love

Self-help Quiz #1

Self-help Quiz #2

Sexual Abuse In Childhood

Shame: What You Can Do About It

Should We Blame Our Parents?

Stages of Therapy

Stop Making Comparisons!

Subconscious Life Scripts


Taking Care Of Yourself

Talking To Yourself


The Three Stages of Relationships

Were You Loved As A Child?

What Helps?

What Is A Therapist’s Job?

What Terror Does To Us

What To Tell A Therapist

Who Can You Trust?

Who Is A Therapist?

Who Is The Real You?

Who Needs Help?

Who’s Healthy?

Why Are You Treated The Way You Are?

Why Do We Work So Hard?

Enjoy Your Changes!

Everything here is designed to help you do just that!

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