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DEPRESSED 50 YEARS
DOESN’T REMEMBER WHO ABUSED HER
SHE’S IN DANGER
TOO MUCH TOUCHING?
HER FAMILY WANTS HER TO END RELATIONSHIP
PARENTS WANT HER TO MARRY
SEXUAL FRIENDSHIP ONLY?
PERFECTIONISM AND RELIEF
MOVED SO OFTEN THAT SHE HAS TROUBLE MAKING FRIENDS
SHOULD SHE TRUST HIM AGAIN?
MEN WHO ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO IMPRESS
WANTS HELP TO AVOID MOLESTING
SHE MARRIED A PLAYER
HER THERAPIST SHAMES HER
MEAN TO HER BOYFRIEND
DEPRESSION: CHEMICAL IMBALANCE OR ENVIRONMENTAL?
THINKS MEN ONLY TURN ON TO BREASTS
DEPRESSED AND MISTRUSTFUL
BROTHER MOLESTED HER FOR YEARS
WORRIED HE’S GAY
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
PRETENDS HE’S AMAZING
LOST HIS LOVE
HOW TO MEET SOMEONE NEW
HOW THIS INFO HELPED HIM
IS IT ME OR MY WEIGHT?
PASSIVE AND CONTROLLING COUPLE
ADDICTED MOTHER OF SEVEN YEAR OLD
DOESN’T TRUST ANYONE
SHOULD SOMEONE IN AA TAKE AN ANTIDEPRESSANT?
CALLS HERSELF A SOCIOPATH
FRIEND’S DRINKING PROBLEM
HUSBAND WANTS UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
LEFT A FEARFUL HOME LIFE
HATES FACING THE PAST
TOO DEPENDENT ON THERAPIST?
HIS PROBLEM, HER SOLUTIONS
DEPRESSED A LONG TIME
MASTURBATION HELP FROM A THERAPIST?
“MILD” SEXUAL ABUSE IN CHILDHOOD
SURVIVOR’S FEAR OF THERAPY
SISTER WON’T PAY FOR MOTHER’S CARE
MOTHER FINDS SON’S PORN
ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING IS HER FAULT
CUTS HERSELF AND WANTS A DIAGNOSIS
DO WE NEED CLOSENESS?
ABUSED, PROBABLY ANOREXIC, AND TOO DEPENDENT ON HER THERAPIST?
HE’S SHY AND SHE SAID “NO”
DOING WELL BUT FEELS GUILTY
SEXUALLY ABUSED AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED
ABUSE SUCCESS STORY
LONG DISTANCE DESIRE
SELF-HELP THROUGH AFFIRMATIONS
FLIRTS AND REJECTS
THERAPIST SAYS HE DISSOCIATES
AFRAID OF BOYFRIEND
REMEMBERING SEXUAL ABUSE
DIFFERENT CULTURES AND IN LOVE
HE SAYS SHE’S A BIGOT
TIRED FROM WORK STRESS
FRIEND CUTS AND BURNS HIMSELF
BIZARRE ATTENTION SEEKING
SAYS MEAN THINGS WHEN HE’S DRUNK
LIVES WITH AN ALCOHOLIC
A THERAPY IMPASSE
WIFE IS LESS ATTRACTIVE
AFRAID TO FEEL WEAK?
GUILT, SHAME AND ABUSERS
WAS RAPE HER FAULT?
EVERYTHING BUT CONTENTMENT
IT MEANS TOO MUCH
SUDDEN ANGER AT HER BOYFRIEND
TOO INVOLVED WITH HIS EX
WEAK ON THE INSIDE
IS HER GUY GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER?
WHO MASTURBATES MORE?
FANTASIES ABOUT HER PSYCHIATRIST
CONTINUES SEX AFTER WIFE SAYS STOP
THINKS SHE’S A BURDEN TO BOYFRIEND
TALKS TO HIMSELF
DOESN’T TRUST HIMSELF?
STILL ANGRY AT ALCOHOLIC EX
DEPRESSED AND OWNED?
DRUNK AND MEAN HUSBAND
IS HE ADDICTED TO PORN?
THINKS I’M WRONG ABOUT ABUSE
ISN’T PERFECTIONISM GOOD FOR US?
GIRLFRIEND WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED
CAN’T GET ALONG WITH PARENTS
HOW TO KNOW IF HE’S INTERESTED
USES ANGER ON HER CHILDREN
GIVING UP ON VALENTINE’S DAY
DEVASTATED BY HER LACK OF INTEREST
THERAPIST’S QUALITIES: TRAINED OR INBORN?
FRIEND HELPS AND THEN DISAPPEARS IN ANGER
ADDICTED DAUGHTER AND HER CHILD
SHE’S CONCERNED ABOUT HIS WEAK ORGASMS
HER “BOSS” THREATENS DIVORCE
HOW MUCH SHOULD HE TELL HIS WIFE?
IS ABUSE THE CHILD’S FAULT?
JEALOUS EX CAUSING TROUBLE
THEY ARE BOTH CONTROLLING
IMAGINES SHE’S TELLING HIM OFF
SHOULD SHE STAY WITH HIM?
DREAMS HE WILL DIE
HE EXPLAINS TOO MUCH
HER SHAME STOPS HIM
HE NEGLECTS HER
SELF-LOVE VS. SELF-ABUSE
MOTHER DISAPPROVES OF HER SON
LOST RELATIONSHIP AND SUICIDAL THOUGHTS
MAY BE HAVING FLASHBACKS
HOW DOES THERAPY END?
WHY DO I HAVE THIS SYMPTOM?
WORK ON HER EATING DISORDER ALONE?
BREASTS AS ANXIETY REDUCERS
18 YEARS OF MISTREATMENT
ALWAYS COMPARING HERSELF
IS HER DEPRESSION DUE TO CHILDHOOD TRAUMA?
GRANDMA WAS KILLED
JUST ANOTHER SEXY DREAM
HUSBAND WANTS TOO MUCH ATTENTION
WHAT IS SEXUAL ABUSE ?
HE SAYS SHE SHOULD LOSE WEIGHT
REBELLION AND LIFESTYLE
ALONE WITH HER SCARY THOUGHTS
SHE’S A PERFECTIONIST
SUICIDAL AND EMBARRASSED
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