Q: We’ve been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, and been together for 2.5 years.
Today my fiancé told me today that he been thinking about other girls and he is curious about them. He is a very honest person and this issue is confusing him a lot.
A: He also sounds like he might be a bit “up tight” about women/sex/relationships, don’t you think?
I think it’s just natural that someone in a long distance relationship for two years would think about other women (or men) regularly.
He probably just needs to know that thinking about – or even wanting – sex with another woman does not mean that he would actually act on it. He also needs to know that you realize he is bound to think about others, and that if he does anything that would break any stated commitments between you and him he would be responsible for his choices. He couldn’t just claim “the devil made him do it” or “human nature made me”…
No need to be confused about having normal sexual desires. And no need to worry that any thought creates any specific action.
Hope this helps him.
Wonder why he didn’t write, instead of you writing for him…?
Hope you’ll share this with him.