Q: Hello. Quick question. I had a bad experience at eight and I just started trying therapy because my husband and I were going to a marriage counselor. I have been fine but now I feel messed up. Should I keep going? I hate it.
A: I guess it depends on what you hate about it…. but, yes, you should definitely continue either with this therapist or with another therapist if something that happened at eight is getting in your way in adult life.
As I guess you just found out, the adult problems caused by a past event will continue to sort of haunt your adult life until you get them fixed. That’s just the way it works.
If you decide not to continue therapy that is the same as deciding to keep the problems that were caused by the event at eight.
I don’t think this is what you wanted to hear, but….