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Q: Is a lack of trust fixable with time or should I seek therapy? A relationship I was in ended for awhile back in April, but we’re back together; only I feel numb as if I’m afraid to love him again. He left unexpectedly and came back very strongly, but I still feel that if I trust him again, he’ll betray that trust. How do I get over that?

A: You’ve got the shoe on the wrong foot!

If he did something that proves he was once untrustable, then it’s up to him to show that he is consistently trustable about everything now.

It’s not your problem that you mistrust someone after they’ve proven they aren’t trustable. It’s his problem to prove that this was a “one time” thing, and that it’s not part of his character in general.

Have you read “Who Can You Trust?” at my site? If you haven’t, please do read it now. It’s at Why Are You Treated The Way You Are?

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