Q: I enjoy reading the site and gave therapy a shot. I wasn’t feeling connected/focused to the world and myself. My therapist said I have dissociation and need to be in the moment. We had two sessions together and since the strategy was simple I gave it a shot. However I still don’t feel connected with myself nor the world and fear I will never feel comfort again. I can’t go to therapy anymore (my budget is tight)… I feel as if God is my only hope at this moment. However I am in the process of building my faith and I don’t know what to do… What do you say?
A: First of all, if you feel hopeful from your faith, by all means keep it up.
If the therapist was correct that you “dissociate” it is important for you to get good therapy. If you can’t afford it, you can go to any Family Service Agency (most large cities) and tell them about it. They can help regardless of the money situation. If that doesn’t work, contact your local Mental Health Association. (You can also read about this at my site: Are You Considering Therapy? )
I’ve learned through the years, however, that most people who say they can’t afford therapy are really just too afraid to deal with a therapist right now, and once they really know they need help they make some changes in their priorities and they find that they can afford it. I’m not saying this is true for you, just that this is often the situation and you’d be wise to ask yourself IF it applies to you at all…
I am also a bit concerned about the therapist deciding that you dissociate based on just two meetings with you, although of course I wasn’t there and I don’t know what the two of you talked about. Don’t be surprised that two sessions didn’t help enough. Therapy is, unfortunately, a much longer process.
Don’t think you “tried therapy” and that it “didn’t work” for you. You didn’t go long enough to find out what you can do for yourself through good therapy.