Q: I just bookmarked your site. It’s wonderful. I had an amazing experience in finding it.
I woke up this morning and decided to start loving myself (after 35 years of self-abuse). As a part of this, I decided to go look into the mirror and say aloud to myself “I love you” It was incredibly difficult to do, so knew it was a profound exercise!
Five minutes later I did a Google search for “self love” and yours was the second page I looked at, and I read your advice there about looking in the mirror and saying “I love you.” Needless to say I was taken aback. Thank you for your wonderful site. I sincerely wish you all the joy possible.
A: I’m so glad you found my site and that it confirmed something you already knew before you even clicked on it! And, by the way, that’s what I believe all therapy is about: telling people it’s OK to believe what they already know down deep but they can’t get in touch with on their own!
We aren’t born “self-loving” but we certainly are born “self-accepting”… and as life goes on and we become capable of love, it’s only natural that we’d love ourselves too. If we didn’t run into other people who have no self-love and no love for us – and who teach us to judge ourselves based on the last thing we did instead of on who we are – we’d all be self-loving!
Congratulations on overcoming the self-hate you’ve been taught and letting the natural self-love win out this morning!