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About Change
DO PEOPLE REALLY CHANGE? Yes! Change is constant in all our lives. THREE AREAS OF CHANGE When we want to change we need to focus on three things: our values, our thinking, and our feelings. Change automatically occurs in all three areas every day, but some changes are...
About Me Professionally…
PROFESSIONAL QUALIFICATIONS My professional credentials are listed below. I am currently affiliated with: MIDWEST CENTER FOR HUMAN SERVICES Clinic phone: (414) 224-0800 EXCELLENCE IN PSYCHOTHERAPY A state certified mental health clinic. (Sister office in Madison,...
Analyzing Non-Sexual Relationships
YOU’LL NEED TO DO SOME INTERPRETING All of the examples given in this questionnaire are about primary, sexual relationships. But if you are analyzing a non-sexual relationship you can answer each question without referring to the examples at all. (For...
E-mail Advice and Telephone Counseling
I no longer offer a regular e-mail advice service. I do still offer short “Ask Tony” letters which are totally free. You can read about them here: Read About Ask Tony If you have any interest in telephone counseling, send me a brief e-mail to say so....
For Therapists and Counselors…
Use Topics At This Site As Your Own Postal Newsletter Every topic at this site was originally written as a double-sided postal newsletter. Build your practice as I have. Choose any twelve topics. Send two topics every-other-month as your own practice-building...
Getting Practical #1: The Basics
Therapists are often accused of not being very practical. After we explain how some problem works, we frequently hear: “OK, Fine. But what should I DO About it?!” We don’t give a lot of practical advice because it usually doesn’t help. People...
HE NEEDS TO GET AWAY FROM ABUSIVE PARTNER
Q: How do you help a man get out of an abusive relationship? It mostly mentally and verbal, but does take on physical aspects as well. He keeps leaving and returning to her (11 years now). Friends and family are very concerned as they have two young children who have...
How You Can Help
One of the most important therapy principles of all is: Ask clearly and directly for what you want! That’s what I’m doing here. YOU CAN HELP THIS SITE BY: Spreading The Word Giving Feedback Making Contributions and Purchases Sharing Your Expertise...
Letters From Visitors (#1)
I thought you might enjoy and benefit from reading some of the many letters I’ve received. Every letter you find here is essentially “as received.” The only changes I made are small grammatical changes, changes related to protecting confidentiality,...
Letters I’ve Received (#2)
Only 17, To Be Honest… I want to compliment you on the wonderful job I feel you did putting this whole thing together. I just read the article on trust. Where did you get the idea of “The Little Professor”? It is a valuable and a pretty fun skill to...
My Availability
Just choose a service and send an email to get started. SERVICE DESCRIPTION TO BEGIN COST Free “Ask Tony” Email Advice Send a short email – about 100 words – with “Ask Tony” in the subject line. E-mail Free. Email Advice Correspond...
Q’s & A’s
I sometimes answer brief questions (50 words or less) at no charge. Telephone counsling is also sometimes available. (Write first to ask if I have openings.) Learn more about these options here: Write to Tony Here are some of the brief questions I have received since...
Q’s and A’s
HIS GIRLFRIEND DOESN’T TRUST HIM Q: Hey, I have a big problem. I’ve been with this girl for three years and she was snooping in my email and found that I told an other girl “luv ya.” But the girl is one of my good friends. Now my girlfriend...
Q’s and A’s
TOO SENSITIVE? Q: I am very sensitive person and I do mind very small things. I have so many problems with the people I know. I have the feeling that people hate me because of this nature. What should I do? I mean shall I consult some doctor? A: Being sensitive can be...
Shrink the Shrink!
Here are some of my “doodles” from about 15 years ago. I was using a dinky paint program called “PC Paint.” WHAT CAN YOU TELL ABOUT ME BY ANALYZING THESE DRAWINGS? I dare You To TELL Me! ——> SHRINK THE SHRINK I’ll Even...
Stop Depression In Its Tracks
We don’t get depressed in a second. We get depressed in a series of well-defined steps. You can stop depression in its tracks if you deal with each step along the way. FINDING YOUR OWN ‘DEPRESSION CYCLE’ I’ll be giving you three examples of typical depression cycles....
Tools for Self-Analysis: #1
If you are willing to spend some time learning about yourself here are a few easy exercises for you. After you finish each exercise read the “Self-analysis” comments that follow. (Don’t peek! You’ll ruin it.) ATTITUDES ABOUT MEN AND WOMEN Just...
Worry
Worry is persistent, unnecessary fear and it is the second most common reason people come to therapy. Since all fear comes from thinking about the future, let’s see what we already know about your future. THINGS YOU KNOW FOR SURE ABOUT YOUR FUTURE Your Future...
